Happiness is a real thing, and it’s more achievable than you might think. It’s not just an idea or a fleeting emotion; it’s a state of being that can be discovered and maintained with the right understanding and effort. Let’s dive into how we can uncover this joy in our lives.

Firstly, it’s essential to recognize that happiness is not found in external circumstances but within ourselves. As Bentinho often says, “We just have to look in the right places. We have to know how to understand existence.” This means turning our attention inward and exploring our inner world.

One way to do this is by becoming aware of our thoughts and feelings. We often create a sense of being a person inside a world that seems dangerous and unpredictable. We build up walls and defenses to protect ourselves, but these can actually keep us from experiencing true happiness. By becoming aware of these mental constructs, we can start to see that they are not who we really are. They are just creations of our minds.

This awareness is the first step towards freedom. As we recognize our thoughts and feelings as just that—thoughts and feelings—we can begin to let them go. We can start to feel a sense of “I am” that is beyond our limited self-concept. This “I am” is a deeper sense of being that is always present, always peaceful, and always content.

To connect with this sense of “I am,” we can practice being present in the moment. This means letting go of distractions and staying with what is true right here, right now. It might feel a bit scary at first, especially if we’re used to identifying with our thoughts and emotions. But as we stay present, we discover a stability and peace that is much more reliable than the constantly changing circumstances of our lives.

This presence is the key to happiness. It’s not about avoiding negative emotions or pretending everything is perfect. It’s about being with whatever arises, without resistance or judgment. When we are present, we can experience joy even in the midst of challenges.

In the Bible, there’s a verse that reflects this idea: “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10). This joy is not dependent on external factors but comes from a deep connection with the divine presence within us.

Happiness is not just an idea; it’s a very real and achievable state of being. By understanding our existence, becoming aware of our thoughts and feelings, and practicing presence, we can unlock the door to a more joyful and fulfilling life.

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Quote :
“Happiness is not found in external circumstances but within ourselves. It’s about being present with whatever arises, without resistance or judgment.” – Bentinho Massaro

Spiritual Book Reference:
“The joy of the Lord is your strength.” – Nehemiah 8:10, Bible

“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” – Rumi (emphasizes the expansive nature of our true being)

Summary Points

  • Our common idea of happiness is often fleeting and dependent on external factors.
  • We often identify with a sense of being limited and separate from the world (the “I am this” feeling).
  • This “I am this” feeling is a creation of the mind, built upon a perceived sense of fragility.
  • By becoming aware of and staying present with the “I am this” feeling, we can see through its limitations.
  • This awareness opens us to a more expansive sense of being, the “I am,” where we experience ourselves as part of the fundamental “isness” of existence.


  1. Feel into your limitations: Take a moment to consciously identify the feeling of “I am this.” Notice any sensations of fragility, tension, or separation that accompany this feeling.
  2. Recognize the construct: Remind yourself that this sense of self is a mental creation, a structure built for perceived safety. Observe how it might feel flimsy or dependent on external validation.
  3. Practice presence: Choose a quiet moment. Instead of distracting yourself, stay present with the “I am this” feeling. Don’t try to change it, just observe. Notice what shifts or dissolves as you maintain awareness.
  4. Tap into the “I am”: As the grip of the “I am this” begins to loosen, open yourself to the simple presence of things as they are, the “isness” of existence. Notice that you are a part of this.