Ready to Create an Amazing Life? The Secret Might Be Your Inner “Changeability”
Have you ever felt like you’re just reacting to life? Like your mood goes up when good things happen and plummets when challenges arise? Most of us live this way. We let our circumstances – the job, the relationship, the bank account – dictate how we feel inside. But what if there was another way? What if you could be in the driver’s seat of your feelings, no matter what’s happening around you?
This ability is something we can call Changeability. It’s the power to shift and choose your inner state of being, your feelings, and your vibration, without needing your external world to change first.
Think about it: the text suggests that if you want to speed up attracting the amazing life you dream of, you need to embrace this inner flexibility. You need to be able to “wander within your own state of being,” meaning you aren’t stuck feeling a certain way just because things look a certain way right now.
Why Does Changeability Matter So Much?
Here’s the core idea, which can feel revolutionary: Your circumstances don’t create your feelings; they reflect them. Life is like a mirror. It shows you what you are holding inside.
Many people believe the opposite. They think, “I’ll be happy when I get the promotion,” or “I’ll feel peaceful when this problem goes away.” But according to this spiritual perspective, it works the other way around. You cultivate the feeling first – the peace, the joy, the abundance – and then your outer world starts to shift to match it.
As the guiding text explains, “you’re not separate from your circumstances but all they do is reflect you never the other way around.” If you can learn to detach your state of being from what’s happening right now, you gain incredible power. You stop letting “what is” tell you how to feel. Instead, you decide how you want to feel, which then influences what shows up next.
The Challenge: Swimming Against the Current
Let’s be honest: this isn’t easy. It’s challenging! We’re taught from a young age to “be realistic,” to pay close attention to our circumstances, and to feel according to what’s happening. Society often tells us, “Why are you smiling when things are tough?”
The text highlights this difficulty, calling it a “very subtle endless learning curve.” It takes conscious effort to stop taking your emotional cues from the outside world. It requires you to say, “Okay, this difficult thing is happening, but I choose to cultivate a feeling of peace (or resilience, or trust) within myself anyway.”
It’s crucial to understand that this doesn’t mean ignoring problems or pretending challenges don’t exist. It’s not about lacking integrity or compassion. You can fully acknowledge your reality, be kind to yourself and others, and act responsibly. The difference is that you don’t let those circumstances dictate your core emotional state or your belief in what’s possible next. You choose your next feeling, your next vibration, independently.
How to Cultivate Changeability:
- Awareness: Notice when you’re automatically linking your feelings to external events. “I feel bad because this happened.” Just noticing is the first step.
- Conscious Choice: Ask yourself, “How do I want to feel right now, regardless of the situation?” Maybe it’s peace, gratitude, trust, or simply neutrality.
- Practice: Intentionally bring that chosen feeling into your body. Breathe it in. Focus on it for a few moments. It might feel unnatural at first, but it gets easier.
- Positive Framing (Even for the Tough Stuff): Try to see current challenges in the most positive light possible for your growth. What can you learn? How can this make you stronger? Seeing things this way helps shift your inner vibration, making you a match for better experiences.
- Remember Your Power: Your inner energetic movement isn’t caused by circumstances. As the text puts it, circumstances don’t “transmit a state of being” to you. You generate your feelings based on your thoughts and choices about the circumstances.
By practicing this inner Changeability, you learn to “positively ignore” circumstances in terms of letting them run your emotional show. You align yourself with the frequency of the life you desire, attracting it more quickly because you’re already vibrating at that level now. You become the cause, not the effect.
Quote:
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl1
Spiritual Reference:
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”2 – Romans 12:2 (ESV)
This verse speaks to the idea of not letting the external world (“this world”) shape you, but instead allowing inner transformation (“renewal of your mind”) to change your experience.
Embracing changeability is a journey, a continuous practice of choosing your inner state. It’s about realizing that your true power lies within, ready to shape a reality that reflects the peace, joy, and abundance you decide to cultivate.
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Key Points About Changeability
- You Are in Charge: Your feelings don’t have to depend on what’s happening around you.
- Circumstances Reflect You: Life mirrors your inner state, not the other way around.
- Choose Your Emotions: You can pick joy or peace, even in tough times.
- Stay Aligned: Positive feelings attract more of what you want.
- It’s a Skill: Changeability takes practice but gets easier over time.
- Integrity Matters: You can stay compassionate while choosing your vibe.
How to Practice Changeability
- Notice Your Feelings: When something tough happens, pause and check how you feel.
- Choose Your Vibe: Ask, “What do I want to feel instead?” Picture that emotion.
- Let Go of “What Is”: Don’t let your current reality control your mood.
- Practice Daily: Try choosing calm in small moments, like when you’re stuck in traffic.
- Journal Your Thoughts: Write down what you want to feel and why each day.
- Meditate for Clarity: Spend 5 minutes daily focusing on a positive emotion.