Have you ever felt stuck because things around you didn’t seem right? Maybe it’s time to rethink how we let our surroundings affect our feelings. Today, we’re exploring how to detach from the “how” of things and why it’s crucial for leading a joyful life.

Imagine you’re the director of your life’s movie. You decide the theme, the characters, and the setting. But there’s a twist – you don’t get to control every detail, especially how things unfold. Sounds tricky, right? But here’s a secret: the beauty of your story doesn’t depend on the “how.” It’s all about your perspective and how you react to the plot twists.

Think of it this way: if you’re always waiting for things to be perfect before you allow yourself to be happy, you might wait forever. But what if you choose to be happy, no matter what the scene looks like? This is what Ben talks about when he says not to tie your feelings to what shows up. It’s a game-changer!

You see, when we stop letting our circumstances dictate how we feel, we tap into a superpower. We start reflecting what’s inside us, not the other way around. It’s like saying, “I’m the boss of my happiness, and no plot twist can take that away.”

But how do we do this? First, remember, it’s okay to feel all the feels. But then, remind yourself: “This situation doesn’t define me. I choose my vibe.” It’s like wearing an invisible shield that lets you walk through life’s storms without getting soaked.

Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not about ignoring what’s happening or pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. It’s about finding your inner zen no matter the weather. It’s about knowing that rain or shine, you’re still you – awesome, strong, and capable of choosing joy.

In the grand scheme of things, life is a collection of stories we tell ourselves. Every day, we have the chance to write a new chapter, one where we’re not victims of our circumstances but heroes of our joy.

So next time life throws you a curveball, take a deep breath and think, “What’s my move here? How do I want to feel?” Remember, you’re the author of your story, and every moment is a fresh opportunity to choose happiness.


“Your circumstances do not define your joy; your perspective does. Choose your feelings, and your reality will align.” – Anonymous

Spiritual Reference:

“Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewal of your mind.” – Romans 12:2, The Bible. This passage encourages us to look beyond our current situation and understand that our true essence and happiness lie in our inner state, not in external conditions.

“Therefore take no thought for the morrow, for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” – Matthew 6:34

So how do you actually detach from the “how”? Here are a few tips:

  • Focus on the feeling, not the form. Instead of obsessing over the exact job you want, focus on the feeling of doing fulfilling work.
  • Embrace the present moment. Your dream life starts now, not in some future you’re desperately trying to reach. Find joy in the small things, and trust that every experience is leading you closer to your desires.
  • Practice gratitude. Appreciate what you already have, and the Universe will be more inclined to shower you with even more abundance.
  • Release control. Trust that the Universe has your back. Let go of your need to micromanage every step, and allow the divine flow to carry you effortlessly.