Lessons of Love

Have you ever wondered about the true essence of love? Not just romantic love, but a deeper, more expansive kind of love that transcends relationships and touches the very core of your being? This journey of understanding love begins with one simple yet profound concept: self-love.

Intuitively, many of us feel that our purpose in this 3D reality is to learn lessons around love. It’s not just about relationships with others but also about the relationship we have with ourselves. Unconditional love is a term often thrown around, but what does it truly mean?

Let’s explore this by understanding that the love we seek externally often mirrors the love we have internally. When we focus on what we believe to be true, such as thinking “love has never come to me,” we inadvertently create a reality that reflects this belief. Our thoughts shape our experiences, and by changing our internal dialogue, we can transform our reality.

To invite love into your life, start with yourself. Begin by loving yourself unconditionally. This means accepting yourself fully and believing that you are inherently lovable and worthy of love. It’s about recognizing your value and treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would offer to someone you deeply care about.

But how do you begin this journey? Here are some steps to guide you:

  1. Change Your Narrative: If you find yourself saying, “I can’t feel loved,” try shifting that thought to “I am lovable.” Your thoughts are powerful, and changing them can open up new vibrational gateways that attract the experiences you desire.
  2. Meditate on Love: Spend time each day meditating on the concept of being loved. Visualize what it feels like to be loved unconditionally. Imagine it vividly until you start to feel it. This practice helps rewire your brain to accept and believe in your lovability.
  3. Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to reinforce your new beliefs. Statements like “I am loved,” “I am worthy of love,” and “I attract love into my life” can be powerful tools in transforming your inner dialogue.
  4. Self-Care: Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. Whether it’s a hobby, exercise, or simply taking time to relax, self-care is a manifestation of self-love.
  5. Challenge Negative Beliefs: When negative thoughts about your worthiness arise, challenge them. Ask yourself why you believe them and whether they are truly valid. Often, these thoughts are remnants of past experiences that no longer serve you.
  6. Seek Connection: While self-love is crucial, we also thrive on connections with others. Open yourself up to forming genuine connections, knowing that you deserve to be loved and cherished.

The Bible beautifully illustrates the concept of unconditional love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV): “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Remember, love is not just an external experience but an internal state of being. By fostering a loving relationship with yourself, you create a foundation for attracting and experiencing love in all its forms. It’s about changing the story you tell yourself and tuning your frequency to one of love and acceptance.

As the spiritual teacher Rumi once said, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

By embodying love, you become a magnet for it, and life will reflect back the love you hold within. Embrace this journey of self-discovery and watch as love, in all its beautiful forms, unfolds in your life.


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

Spiritual Book Reference:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

Summary Points:

  • Love starts within: The journey to finding love begins with loving yourself unconditionally.
  • Our beliefs shape our reality: If we believe we are unlovable, we attract experiences that confirm this belief.
  • Change your story: Affirmations like “I am lovable” can shift your energy and attract positive experiences.
  • Meditation and visualization: These tools help you embody self-love and feel the love of the Creator within you.
  • Embody love: Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and this will radiate outward.
  • Manifestation: When you genuinely love and accept yourself, you become a magnet for love in all forms.


  • Affirm your worthiness: Repeat affirmations like “I am lovable” daily.
  • Meditate and visualize: Spend time each day envisioning yourself surrounded by love.
  • Practice self-care: Treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and respect.
  • Challenge negative beliefs: Identify and reframe negative thoughts about yourself.
  • Be open to receiving love: Allow yourself to be loved by others and the divine.
  • Extend love to others: Share your love with the world around you.