Empowering Others: Navigating the Journey of Helping Loved Ones
Do you ever feel powerless when trying to help someone you care about, especially when they’re facing tough challenges like addiction? You’re not alone. It’s a common feeling, but there’s a way to shift your perspective and approach to truly make a difference.
Bentinho shares a powerful insight: sometimes, helping isn’t about changing someone’s journey, but about enlightening it. This doesn’t mean you ignore their struggles. Instead, it’s about understanding that each person’s path, including their challenges, is perfect for their growth.
For instance, if someone is battling addiction, forcibly removing their struggle might delay their personal epiphany. They need to reach a point of change through their own free will for it to be lasting. Your role? Offer support, understanding, and resources, but respect their journey and choices.
This approach requires a change in your perspective. Instead of seeing their situation as wrong, view it as an essential part of their growth. Remember, their higher self sees every challenge as an opportunity for expansion and learning.
The most profound way you can assist is by helping them understand their emotional guidance system. When they feel bad, it’s not that something is wrong; it’s that their perspective is misaligned. By recognizing this, they can realign themselves and find balance and power within.
Here’s a fitting quote from Ben: “Empowerment comes not from changing someone’s journey, but by illuminating it with understanding and unconditional love.”
This concept echoes a spiritual principle found in the Bible, Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” This encourages us to trust in the greater journey and not solely rely on our limited perspective.
To sum up, the key is to shift your focus from trying to ‘save’ someone to empowering them. This change in perspective can help you and your loved one find a more fulfilling path.
Quote: “The only way to help someone is to show them that they can help themselves.” – Bentinho Massaro
Bible/Spiritual Book Reference: John 13:34-35 – “A new commandment I give you: Love one another as I have loved you. Just as I have loved you, you also ought to love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Here are some key takeaways from Bentinho’s message:
- Respecting free will: No matter how much we love someone, we cannot force them to change. Their journey is their own, and interfering with their choices, even out of love, can actually hinder their progress.
- Understanding the bigger picture: Every challenge, even addiction or hardship, is a valuable learning experience in the grand scheme of someone’s soul journey. By trying to remove these challenges, we might be taking away their opportunity to grow.
- Shifting our perspective: Instead of seeing someone’s struggles as burdens, we can view them as opportunities for them to discover their inner strength and resilience. Our role is to offer support, love, and guidance, not to take away their challenges.
- Focusing on unconditional love: When we love someone unconditionally, we accept them for who they are, even when we don’t like their choices. This acceptance creates a safe space for them to heal and grow at their own pace.
- Leading by example: Our own actions and choices can be the most powerful way to influence others. By living with authenticity and integrity, we show them what’s possible and inspire them to find their own truth.