It’s easy to lose sight of who we truly are. We often seek validation from others, asking questions like, “How do I look today?” or “What do you think about this?” But what if we could change that? What if, from this day onwards, we used our own feelings to gauge the truth?
Imagine not needing anyone’s approval to be who you are. Your truth might not be the same as someone else’s, and that’s okay. People often lack clarity in their own lives, so why should we rely on their opinions to define our own truth?
This is not to say that we should isolate ourselves from others. Engaging with people who have explored more of themselves and have a clearer understanding of the world can be beneficial. But, it’s important to discern who those people are. Don’t seek validation from those who don’t know who they are. If a sheep compliments a lion, should the lion feel flattered? Not really.
It’s crucial to be selective about whose opinions we value. If someone you admire and aspire to be like offers you a genuine compliment, it might be worth considering. But if it’s someone you don’t resonate with, their opinion shouldn’t matter to you.
So, how do you gauge your own truth? It’s simpler than you might think. Pay attention to how you feel immediately after you have a thought. If you feel good, it’s likely that you’re in alignment with your true self. If you feel bad, it might be a sign that you’re off track. It’s an instantaneous reaction, so quick that you might not even notice a gap.
Remember, you’re not here to judge yourself. When you feel a bit off, don’t spiral into negativity. Instead, use it as an opportunity to realign with your authentic self. You are meant to feel amazing when you’re in alignment with your true being.
In the words of Bentinho, “Drop the idea that you can gauge how you’re doing by what other people think and start only gauging how you’re doing and whether what you think or not is true based on how you feel.”
Embracing your authentic self is a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. It’s about being true to who you are, regardless of what others think. So, be you, unapologetically.
Be You, Be Bold
The Bible gets real in Romans 12:2, saying, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Finding your inner truth and authenticity takes courage. It means letting go of needing everyone’s approval and saying “Hey, this is me! Take it or leave it.” There’s great power in that kind of unapologetic ownership of who you are.
Quote:
“Drop the idea that you can gauge how you’re doing by what other people think and start only gauging how you’re doing and whether what you think or not is true based on how you feel.” – Bentinho Massaro
Summary Points:
- It’s easy to get caught up in seeking approval from others.
- Our internal feelings offer the best gauge of our own truth.
- Not everyone’s opinions are created equal – consider the source.
- Pay attention to how your thoughts make you feel for instant feedback.
- Focus on alignment with your authentic self, not negative judgements.