Understanding and Supporting Loved Ones with Addictions

Addiction is a complex and challenging journey, not just for the individual experiencing it, but also for their loved ones. In the words of Bentinho the key to supporting someone with an addiction is not about changing their journey, but about enlightening it.

Firstly, it’s essential to see the situation from a larger perspective. Ben emphasizes that what might seem unpleasant in society’s eyes could be perfect for the individual’s journey. Addiction, as hard as it is to accept, might be a necessary part of their path to self-discovery and healing.

One powerful approach is to help the individual understand their emotional guidance system. This means recognizing that feeling bad doesn’t necessarily indicate that something is wrong; it might just signify that their perspective is out of alignment with their inner self. Educating them about this can empower them to find balance and alignment without relying on substances.

Another crucial aspect is to change your perspective. Viewing the state of addiction as a tragedy can exacerbate the struggle. Instead, try to see it as a part of their journey, an opportunity for growth and learning. This shift in perspective can be incredibly freeing for both you and your loved one.

Additionally, offering unconditional love and support without judgment or the desire to change their path is vital. This doesn’t mean enabling their addiction, but rather respecting their journey and offering them tools and alternatives that they can choose when they are ready.

Remember, it’s not about taking away their struggle; it’s about offering more for them to choose from. By doing so, you’re not only helping them but also growing yourself into a more understanding and powerful being, balanced in love and wisdom.


“The most profound way you can help someone with an addiction is by enlightening their journey with unconditional love and freedom, and by providing them with tools for self-empowerment.” – Bentinho Massaro

Spiritual Reference:

The Bible offers wisdom that resonates with this topic in Galatians 6:2, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” This passage underscores the importance of supporting each other with compassion and understanding, especially in times of struggle.

James 1:2-4: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”