Choosing Your Preferences
“Your perception of the world is a reflection of your own state of consciousness.” — Eckhart Tolle
Have you ever noticed how two people can experience the same situation but interpret it completely differently? This is because our perception shapes our reality. What we focus on, we experience more of. By choosing to see only what aligns with our highest preference, we can transform our lives.
Understanding the Power of Preference
Your mind is constantly filtering the world based on what you believe to be true. If you focus on struggle, you will see struggle. If you focus on joy, you will experience joy. This means that your experience of life is not dictated by external circumstances but by your internal choices.
When you consciously decide what you prefer to see, feel, and be, you are no longer reacting to life—you are creating it. Instead of allowing outside forces to dictate your emotions, you take charge by choosing a state of being that aligns with your highest self.
How to Identify Your Core Preference
To begin shaping your reality, you must first define what truly matters to you. Here’s a simple exercise to help:
- Take a Deep Breath – Clear your mind for a few seconds. Let go of your daily worries.
- Ask Yourself – If you could only experience one state of being for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Listen to Your Heart – What brings you the most joy, peace, or fulfillment? What connects you to your true self?
Whatever answer comes to you naturally is your core preference. It could be love, freedom, peace, excitement, or any other state of being. Once you identify it, you can begin aligning your life with it.
Seeing and Feeling Your Preference
Once you know your core preference, it’s time to embody it:
- Visualize It – Picture yourself living in your preferred state. How do you act? How do you feel?
- Feel It – The more you immerse yourself in this feeling, the more real it becomes.
- Be It – As you consistently choose this frequency, it will start to shape your external world.
Your reality is a reflection of what you emit. When you embody a certain state of being, the world around you reorganizes itself to match that frequency.
Breaking Free from External Validation
Many people base their emotions on external circumstances. If something “good” happens, they feel happy; if something “bad” happens, they feel upset. However, this approach makes happiness conditional and unstable.
The key to freedom is to choose your state of being regardless of what is happening around you. If you decide to feel abundant, joyful, or peaceful, external events will no longer have power over you. Instead, they will begin to align with your inner world.
The Science Behind Energy and Attraction
Everything in existence is energy, including your thoughts and emotions. This means that when you align with a certain frequency, you attract experiences that match it.
Think of yourself as the center of a vortex—whatever you place at the core of your being will shape the movement of everything around you. If you place fear at your core, your life will reflect fear. If you place love, joy, or success, your life will reflect those qualities instead.
A Biblical Perspective
This principle is also reflected in spiritual teachings. The Bible says:
“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” — Proverbs 23:7 (KJV)
This verse reinforces the idea that our thoughts shape our reality. By choosing our inner world wisely, we influence what unfolds in our lives.
Living Your Preference Daily
To fully integrate this concept into your life, practice the following:
- Wake Up with Intention – Each morning, decide how you want to feel that day.
- Refocus When Necessary – If you catch yourself reacting negatively, pause and realign with your preference.
- Surround Yourself with Support – Spend time with people and environments that reflect your chosen frequency.
- Trust the Process – Even when external circumstances seem unchanged, persist in seeing, feeling, and being your preference.
Final Thoughts
By consciously choosing your preferences, you step into the role of the creator of your life. Instead of reacting to what happens, you dictate the course of your reality. Remember, energy does not have a will of its own—it follows your lead.
So, what will you choose to see today?
Quote for Reflection: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
Summary Points:
- You are the creator of your reality: Your experience of life is not fixed; you have the power to shape it.
- Preferred State of Being: This is the core frequency of emotions, thoughts, and feelings you choose to embody. It influences everything you attract.
- Choosing Your State: Identify the one state of being you would choose if you could experience only one for the rest of your life. This is your preferred state.
- See, Feel, Be: First, visualize your preferred state. Then, cultivate the feeling of it. The more you feel it, the more you become it.
- Paste Your State: Choose how you interpret your experiences. Respond to situations from your chosen frequency, regardless of external circumstances.
- Energy Responds to You: Your consistent focus on your preferred state will reshape your reality. You become a magnet for experiences that align with it.
Actionable Steps:
- Introspection: Take time to quiet your mind and ask yourself: “If I could experience only one state of being for the rest of my life, what would it be?”
- Identify Your Preferred State: The answer to the above question is your preferred state of being. It’s your core desired frequency.
- Visualize and Feel: Regularly visualize yourself embodying your preferred state. Focus on cultivating the feeling of it in your heart and body.
- Practice “Pasting”: Throughout your day, consciously choose how you interpret events. Respond to situations from your preferred state, not from fear or reactivity. For example, if your preferred state is joy, even in a challenging situation, ask yourself, “How can I find the joy or the lesson in this?”
- Consistent Practice: This is not a one-time fix. Consistently practicing these steps is key to reshaping your reality. Make it a daily practice to connect with your preferred state and respond from that place.
- Observe and Adjust: Pay attention to how your life starts to shift as you consistently embody your preferred state. Notice the changes in your thoughts, feelings, actions, and circumstances. Adjust your approach as needed, always returning to the core practice of choosing your state of being.